All moms have felt overwhelmed and under-relaxed at some time or another. Caring for children is an all-consuming and challenging responsibility. It’s so easy to get lost in the family’s day-to-day needs that our own needs get neglected.
Carving out time to unplug and unwind on a regular basis is important for anyone, and especially moms. Afterall, if you don’t prioritize time to regenerate, it’s impossible to be your best self for your family.
Mommy “ME” time keeps you sane and balanced. It also gives you a chance to maintain your other adult relationships and to focus on your own needs as a person. As easy as it may be to forget, you are not just a mother and it’s unhealthy to wrap your entire identity around your children. It’s great when your have a significant other or family member to help take the brood off of your hands for a few hours. But I realize that not every mom has that option.
Regardless of whether you can get time away from the house or not, make sure you take a little time to do something special for yourself each day. We can all find a small, daily activity that focuses on YOU. You might prefer to spend your me time alone, or you might like to be with friends. In either case, here are some ideas to get you thinking:
- Curl up with a book or magazine
- Take a bubble bath
- Take a nap
- Go to dinner alone
- Schedule a Girls Night Out with a few friends (consider connecting with other moms who need some “ME” time also)
- Take a walk
- Do some gardening
- Join a Support Group for Moms
- Get a manicure/predicure
- Go shopping
- Catch up on your favorite TV shows
- Watch a movie
- Get a massage or facial
As you can see, me time can be spent alone or with others, and it doesn’t need to cost very much or anything at all. You’ll be amazed at how good you will feel after enjoying some simple time focusing on those things that help you to relax. There is no need to feel guilty in your efforts to retain your sense of self. Taking care of yourself is a gift that benefits your whole family.
You don’t need to wait for someone to take the kids for the whole day before you begin to focus on your ME time. If you have a supportive partner, he might be perfectly willing to take the kids out into the yard for some playtime with daddy for a half an hour per day. Or, perhaps you could let him take care of them on Saturday morning, while you sleep in, shower, and paint your nails. Most men are more than willing to step up and engage more with the children. They might simply need a little encouragement.
If you are not in the habit of taking regular personal time for yourself, you will be stunned by how much more energy and patience that you acquire for taking care of the household. Remember that it’s ok to ask for help. You have wants and needs outside of household duties, and it is important to acknowledge them. Ignoring these feelings will only drain you of your fulfillment as a mother. It’s very important to get some down time everyday. So, don’t wait any longer to start planning some essential mommy ME time for yourself.
What are some things you do to take care of and recharge yourself? Please share your ideas in the comments.