With more than 10 years of marriage experience under my belt, I think I can say with some authority that ‘forgiveness is the key to a happy marriage’. It may not be the only key, but it is definitely one of the most important ones.
Whether you are still basking in the honeymoon stage or you’ve been married for decades, you know all too well how important it is to practice forgiveness with your spouse. I’ve heard it said that the ones closest to you are the ones who can hurt you the most. It’s so easy, whether intentionally or not, to hurt one another, or to take the other for granted, or just simply to get on one another’s nerves!
There will always be some unkind words or thoughtless actions that can bring offense into the relationship. We often have to choose to forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t come naturally for most, especially when your spouse doesn’t deserve it. Choosing to forgive can be the hardest, most difficult, choice you can make. But it is one that, once made, pays off in dividends to not only your spouse, your marriage, and your family, but more importantly, to yourself.
I love this list of nine secrets that I believe contains the recipe for a successful and happy marriage.
2. Ability to Compromise
4. Don’t Neglect Physical Intimacy
5. Attack Problem Areas Fast
6. Learn how to handle arguments
7. Learn to Give Space
8. Accept Each Other’s Flaws
9. Be Encouraging
Jay and Doris Glaspy are a couple who have been married for more than 50 years. They have shared some powerful ways to guard your home against divorce and ensure that your relationship remains healthy and vibrant across the years.
1. Nurture the Spiritual Side of Your Marriage
2. Make Your relationship the Top Priority
3. Be Each Other’s Best Friends
4. Be Quick With Forgiveness
5. Overlook Slights and Irritations
6. Learn to Fight Fair
7. Avoid Perfectionism
8. Never Go to Bed Angry
9. Accentuate the Positive
Strive for a happy marriage that is built on the right foundation. Be quick to forgive, forget, and move on – your marriage is definitely worth it!
I would love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share them in the comments below.